4 Ways To Get Over Your Relationship Anxiety

Relationship Advice | January 1, 2018

All relationships can go through their fair share of tough times or the proverbial “rough patches.” Relationship anxiety is essentially the excessive worry regarding the state of your relationship. You may find yourself calling your partner an unhealthy amount, monitoring their social media accounts or falsely accusing them of certain behaviour. Not to mention, this behaviour can cause your partner to behave this way as well!

While a certain degree of relationship anxiety is entirely normal in relationships, the problem is that it can become unhealthy. For example, it can lead to a debilitating level of anxiety that impacts your daily life. Relationship anxiety can also result in destructive behaviour that can put your relationship at risk.

As such, it’s important to take steps to minimize your relationship anxiety – both for the health of your relationship and of course, your own well being.

1. Understand the Causes of your Anxiety
   The first step in getting over your relationship anxiety is to understand where your anxiety originates from.

   For instance, those with relationship anxiety may experience temporary relief by monitoring their partner’s social media accounts, but this does not offer a long-term solution for your anxiety. In fact, doing so can act as a trigger.

   Ultimately, a long-term solution comes from understanding where your anxiety comes from. Interestingly enough, most psychologists trace anxiety back to attachment issues developed in early childhood. However, issues with trust or past relationships can also be a source of this relationship anxiety.

   The point is that identifying a potential source of your anxiety and then taking the relevant steps to minimize is the first step in managing these triggers.

2. Self Awareness
   Relationship anxiety can cause you to behave in irrational ways. Being able to identify when you are acting irrationally and then asking yourself if your current partner has given you a reason to behave this way, can minimize your anxiety – especially if your partner has given you no evidence of being an untrustworthy person.

   This will not come naturally, and will definitely require some work. Trying to to be more self aware allows you to be more critical of your emotions.

3. Exercise & Positive Affirmation
   Exercise and positive self affirmation can increase serotonin production in the brain, helping to relieve your anxiety on a daily basis. So get up, get active and release some unnecessary stress.
4. Understand When to Seek Professional Help
   If your relationship anxiety is beginning to cause you significant stress in your daily life, it may be time to seek professional help.

   Ultimately, everyone deserves to feel connected to their partner and professional guidance can help you to work through your anxiety in constructive and healthy ways.

   Here are some potential signs that can signal that it may be time to speak to a professional: experiencing periods of emotional instability, having trouble focusing on daily tasks, feeling sad and/or lonely or experiencing a lack of energy.

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