February 2015 – posted on www.gomag.com

Ask the Expert | February 7, 2015

Dear Carol,
I am one of those women who will meet someone and get caught up in the moment and dive head first into the intimate part of the relationship. I meet someone and find her extremely attractive and sometimes even after the first date we end up becoming intimate. The truth is I enjoy sex but I am smart enough to know that fast sex does not equal real intimacy in the long term. These short sexually driven encounters never turn into long term relationships. When is it okay to become sexually involved? Is there an actual time frame? I really do believe in and would like to find my happily ever after.

Dear Flirtatious,
The real answer is jumping into bed early in a relationship is that no matter how great the hot steamy insane sex may be it is no indication of how well a long term relationship will work. Great sex does not mean you get along with each other. It is an important part of a long term relationship but: it does not have a thing to do with everyday compatibility. The hard part is chemistry is difficult to predict and sex is fun and hard to resist. The problem is the spell wears off after a while and you realize you hate her dog and family and she is an absolute slob and you really have nothing in common. Resist the temptation get to know each other first and wait a little while at least. Anything worthwhile is worth waiting for.
Don’t give up happily ever after does exist just be patient and realize how great it will be when it does happen!

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