Like any celebration of love, planning a lesbian wedding can be an exciting, overwhelming, and exhausting process—often including all of these emotions (and many more) at the same time. Regardless of the number of invitees to your wedding and the budget you have, there are sure to be a few speed-bumps along the road. Here are a few things to remember as you plan the wedding:
1. Don’t fret the family drama
Like any large family gathering, your wedding is likely to be the setting for some form of family drama, especially if you invite dozens of people. Frankly, this type of occurrence is often unavoidable, especially when alcohol is involved. However, family drama can be magnified if there are those who are uncomfortable with homosexuality. It is even possible that some invitees may struggle with the wedding due to their own religious beliefs, and all of this can lead to drama. The important thing to remember is that this is a celebration of love between you and your partner, and only those who are happy for you should be there to witness the event. Don’t fret the family drama, and don’t feel like you have to invite those who are not going to celebrate with you.
2. Plan some time for coordinating your wardrobe
For lesbian couples who both want to wear a dress, be sure to coordinate and shop together with as much time in advance as possible. The reason for this: finding matching wedding dresses can be very difficult. From shades of white to compatible cuts, you and your partner may need to compromise a little to make sure your dresses match. The same can be said for suits, as it can take a lot of effort to find a perfect fit that also complements your partner’s attire.
3. Feel free to forget the “gender rules”
Regardless of the sexuality of the couple getting married, never feel like you have to follow “gender rules” for your wedding. From having male and female bridesmaids to choosing your wedding party’s wardrobe, you get to make the rules. Feel free to embrace whatever ideas excite you and your partner, and make sure everyone involved is equally positive and invested in the event. Not only will this weed out those who are not comfortable with a lesbian wedding, but it will also make sure your most loved friends and family will be at your side on your special day.
4. Embrace the fun
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with planning a traditional wedding. However, if you want to embrace some more fun, quirky, and creative ideas, what better time is there to do this than a lesbian wedding? From funky decor ideas to dance floor games, now is the time to embrace whatever makes you and your partner unique.
5. Embrace each other
Most importantly, your lesbian wedding is about you and your partner and the life you are going to build together. With that in mind, it is crucial that you communicate with each other and make sure you are both happy with the arrangements. Unfortunately, it is possible that not everyone in your family and your lives will be comfortable with your wedding and your sexuality. Above all else, make sure both you and your partner are comfortable. It’s your special day, and you don’t have to celebrate it with those who are anything but positive about the occasion.
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