You were attracted to him for a long time and finally got the courage to ask him for his number. You have spoken a few times and sent a few texts back and forth and he has finally committed to his first date with you. You are excited and nervous all at the same time. Will you still be attracted to each other when you meet again and spend some time together? Where should you go and what should you do? Will this be the first and only date? Here are a few tips to take the pressure off and make sure your first date is not your last date.
Don’t Set Unrealistic Expectations
• The first date should be all about having fun and getting to know each other. Don’t interview him go somewhere where you both will be comfortable. It is important not to go to a movie and I would not even recommend dinner as there is a possibility there will be an awkward silence over a long dinner date. I usually recommend a fun activity for a first date or brunch or a cocktail on a Thursday night after work. Short sweet and fun is what the first date is all about so you leave looking forward to spending more time together on the second date.
Being a Gentleman Goes a Long Way
• How you treat people is a good indication of who you are. This is not just about how you treat your date but; how you treat the people around you including the servers at a restaurant or the driver in the cab or anyone for that matter. If you are kind and polite your date will remember that. A great way to take the awkwardness out of a restaurant date is to sit beside him as opposed to across from him. If things are going well and the chemistry is there it creates a more intimate date.
Secure the Second Date Before the First Date Ends
• If you have a good time on your first date don’t leave your date guessing. Be sure to let him know by suggesting you would like to see him again. Ask if he would like to go for a hike next Sunday afternoon. Don’t be afraid to let him know you enjoyed his company and would like to see him again.