How Soon Is Too Soon To Say, “I Love You”?

Love/Friendship Balance | September 21, 2016

How Soon Is Too Soon To Say, “I Love You”?

Saying “I love you” for the first time is a wonderful milestone for couples, allowing your relationship to develop into something deeper and more meaningful. With such declarations carrying so much weight, however, it makes sense that many people experience feelings of uncertainty, especially when it comes to when, exactly to reveal those feelings. You may believe that doing so too early could put you in a vulnerable position and set you up for heartbreak if your partner does not feel the same way. So, how soon is too soon to say, “I love you”?

How Soon is Too Soon to Say, “I Love You”?

Although every relationship progresses at its own pace, it can be helpful to know the timeline at which other couples typically make these declarations of love. According to recent studies, most couples will say “I love you” after five months of being in a relationship (or 144 days). However, this does not mean that this should also be the same for you. In fact, you may be ready to say it sooner than most couples or perhaps even later than this.

On the whole, if you haven’t been dating for at least three months, this is a strong sign that it may be too soon. However, that is not necessarily the case.

Signs You Are Not Ready to Say, “I Love You”

When it comes to saying “I love you” for the first time, it is imperative that you assess your own feelings toward the other person and ultimately disregard any notion of timing as much as possible. Instead, it may be more helpful to look at some potential signs that you may not yet be ready to say, “I love you.” For example:

  • You’re Questioning It

    Perhaps you have been dating your partner for six months. You begin to think that now is the time you should be telling your partner that you love him or her, as this is what conventional wisdom tells us. However, if you have any doubt or you are questioning your feelings, avoid making a rash statement, as this could damage your relationship even further.

  • You’re Afraid You Might Scare Your Partner Away

    If you are afraid that telling your partner you love him or her may push them away, this is a sign that it may be too soon. This is because you haven’t yet reached a level of trust where you feel comfortable doing so.

  • You Haven’t Imagined a Future with your Partner

    If you haven’t yet imagined what a future would be like with your partner, this may be an indication that you are mistaking love for another emotion and that it is too soon.

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