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The Lesbian Friend Zone: How To Avoid It

Lesbian Friend Zone | October 11, 2017

How To Avoid The Lesbian Friend Zone

The lesbian friend zone occurs when one person views a friendship as platonic, while the other sees the friend in much more romantic terms. This is very common in the context of lesbian relationships and, indeed, can be very disheartening. While this can certainly be disappointing, the good news is that with a little maneuvering, you can potentially avoid in the friend zone in the future.

Avoiding The Lesbian Friend Zone

Understanding Potential Reasons Behind Being Put In The Friend Zone

It goes without saying that there are a myriad of reasons why you could have been put in the friend zone without it having anything to do with you. That said, it is important to evaluate your own actions as well. For example, were you doing enough to let the other person know you are were interested in her romantically?

Being put in the friend zone can also be particularly likely during the initial first few dates, even when both people know that the expectation is romantic. In an effort to find common ground, women will empathize with each other. The problem is that this can lead to a discussion of how difficult lesbian dating can be of past relationships and so on and so forth. This can quickly move into a friendship instead of a romantic relationship. Friendship is certainly a great foundation for any relationship, but if you can’t move beyond it, it can be the end romantically.

There’s another problem that can also lead to being put in the lesbian friend zone: things progress too slowly. Although your first several dates may have had great conversation and chemistry, if both people fail to make a move, due to fear of rejection, for example, this can also lead to problems.

The Takeaway

When it comes to lesbian dating, avoiding the friend zone is a delicate balance, often between making your intentions known, walking a fine line between friendship and romance and making a first move. With all of this said, it is also important to remember that sometimes being put in the lesbian friend zone is entirely inevitable. There just wasn’t that spark. If you have yet to find the committed relationship you’re looking for, perhaps lesbian matchmaking services could be for you.

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