After many years of working with Gay Males and hearing about their successes and disasters I want to share a couple tips I have learned along the way that are definitely key in having a successful Gay Relationship. First and foremost be yourself as no relationship even has a chance if you pretend to be someone you are not. Learn from your mistakes and don’t keep making the same ones over and over again as so many of us do.
• It is important your partner and you share some common interests and hobbies and life philosophies but; at the same time it is essential to have some differences. You are looking for a compliment to your personality and not a clone of yourself. The most important thing is that you share the same values and are looking for the same thing in a relationship so that you will be compatible with each other. Communication is necessary in any relationship and it is important you are able to share things with each other and verbally express what you are feeling. Communication is not just about telling your partner how you feel but even more importantly listening to him and what he is saying and how he is feeling. A relationship is also about compromise and sacrifice and understanding how to be able to put his needs before yours when necessary.
• Relationships are built on honesty and commitment as well as loyalty and dedication. It is important you both can express your true self and devotion to each other. You have to be open and non judgemental and unafraid to express your feelings and passion for each other. It is important to have a balanced life and be supportive of each other’s personal goals and growth. Always remember to be supportive of each other instead of feeling threatened. Encourage each other and most importantly don’t forget to laugh together.
Value and Respect Each Other and Don’t Take Each Other For Granted
• Devote quality time to the relationship and don’t forget no matter how busy you get to schedule a date night once a week where you are able to be attentive to each others’ needs. You must always have shared visions and goals and a mutual respect for each other. It is important to validate your partner in the ways that are most important to him and show him not only through words but through actions how important he is to you and how much you appreciate having him in your life.